Women's Health - Domestic Violence
Have you ever been hit, slapped, kicked, shoved or otherwise physically hurt by your partner? Have you ever been forced to have sex or participate in sexual activities that made you feel uncomfortable? Has anyone threatened to hurt or kill you, your children or your friends?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, call HAP's Coordinated Behavioral Health Management Department anytime, seven days a week at (800) 444-5755 for a counseling referral. Or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE. Don't wait!
Are you being abused by your partner? Here's a list of places where you can get help and/or seek safe shelter.
Whether or not you feel able to leave an abuser, there are things you can do to make yourself and your family safer. You need a safety plan because your safety is the most important thing.
Warning Signs of Domestic Violence
- Pushing or shoving.
- Slapping, grabbing, biting, hitting, spanking, kicking.
- Holding down, twisting arms, banging head on floor, choking, pinning against wall, carrying against will.
- Forced sex.
- Kneeling, hair pulling, punching.
- Burning, trying to run over with car.
- Throwing objects, punching walls or breaking doors, breaking windshields.
- Breaking or tearing clothes and personal objects.
- Driving recklessly to scare.
- Blocking exits or car, taking keys, taking money or bank cards--all to prevent partner from leaving.
- Unplugging the phone.
Verbal and Emotional Abuse
- Threats, including threatening violence, divorce, suicide, reporting partner to the authorities, making partner do illegal things.
- Intimidation, including making partner afraid by using looks, actions and gestures.
- Stalking, accusations of sexual infidelity, abrupt mood changes.
- Destruction of property, especially prized possessions.
- Isolation, including controlling partner's activities and possessions, examples: access to the phone, questioning activities, preventing from seeing friends or family, intense jealously, controlling behavior.
- Threatening or using the children.
- Cruelty to animals or children.
- Economic abuse including preventing partner from working or going to school, controlling the finances.
- Treating partner like a servant, making all the decisions, defining roles.